Exploring myself with curious fingers, I ask: Are you enough?
Thank you to the beautiful woman who made this picture possible.
And thank you to Love Alchemical. This piece of writing is inspired by a post on her blog, and the thought-provoking conversation we had as a result of that post:
Catholic In The 21st Century (CIC): A thought-provoking poem.
I think everyone can relate to the desire to explore themselves — to probe regions of their body with curious fingers.
However, when that happens, I feel like something is lost.
If you and you alone are the one pleasuring yourself, what does that mean for the man (or woman) who is your partner?
It seems like pleasuring oneself drives a wedge between lovers; if the one loving you *is* you, than the love-making aspect of your relationship with this person will suffer.
Love Alechemical (LA): Thank you for reading. Great comment and question. I agree with something being lost in a partnership though this is written from the perspective of not having a partner or rather the desire to have a partner and pleasuring oneself in the waiting space. I imagine in a partnership this type of indulgence can play out in voyeuristic fashion as foreplay if you will, in hopes that nothing is lost 🙂
CIC: You’re welcome. I’m glad you liked what I said.
Thank you for explaining the context of the post; the post being written from the perspective of someone who’s not in a relationship, but who is trying to make the most of waiting.
And I agree: Couples can mix things up in order to ensure that, when it comes to their intimate encounters, nothing is lost.
The reason I said what I said earlier is: Love-making is something that should never lose its joy and wonder. And I feel like there is a risk of that happening if, as a result of pleasuring oneself, experiencing pleasure becomes as routine and commonplace as, for example, scratching an itch.
LA: I appreciate your desire to bring clarity to your message. It makes sense and I agree wholeheartedly.
CIC: “I appreciate your desire to bring clarity to your message.”
I’m glad my message came across clearly. That’s what I strive for in everything I write: Clarity.
I won’t always agree with everything that a person says, but I do my best to express my disagreement in a way that keeps the conversation going and doesn’t shut it down.
I believe there’s a lot of conflict that stems from a refusal to communicate or clarify.
“It makes sense and I agree wholeheartedly.”
And same here. I believe I understand why you’re saying what you’re saying, and agree with it.
LA: You’re kind. I love communications and other viewpoints; believe being open to perspectives is what grows us, keeps us open to considering truths we may be blind to, especially in these type of platforms 🙂
CIC: “You’re kind.”
Thank you. 🙂
I do my best to always be kind.
“I love communications and other viewpoints…”
“…believe being open to perspectives is what grows us, keeps us open to considering truths we may be blind to, especially in these type of platforms…”
Thank you for communicating with me.
I’m enjoying the conversations we’re having.
I look forward to more of them. 🙂
LA: Thank you – Same here 🙂
CIC: You’re welcome. 🙂