Thank you to TheOriginalPhoenix for inspiring me to do the Boundless Challenge.
Every Friday, I will write about one time during the week where I “lived boundless” — where I achieved more than I thought I was capable of.
This Friday, February 24th, I want to celebrate an opportunity I had to be “emotionally naked” — to just lay my thoughts and feelings out on the table.
The reason I want to celebrate this opportunity is because it illustrates why I believe being open and honest with people is so important.
Before today, this week, I did two things I would call significant:
- I got a job.
- I was naked outside.
The reason I call my choice to get naked and go outside “significant” is because it’s a choice that can be considered weird — the kind of choice that makes people think Are you right in the head?
And the experience was weird, but not in the way that you might think: The experience was “weird” in the sense that I got more out of it than I thought I would.
To quote the post I wrote about the experience:
After being naked outside, being in my most vulnerable state for the world to see, I felt like I could do anything. I thought to myself If I can be naked outside, than acing that job interview should be a walk in the park.
…After showing all of myself, I felt that I could be all of myself — I felt that I could put to use all that God has given me, and I could put it to use for a purpose that brought me closer to Him and satisfied my desire to make something of my life: my desire to not live my life on the couch.
The third significant event this week would be the conversation I had earlier today with sunshine lou, about the experience.
Below is the conversation we had.
I don’t think Lou will mind me posting it.
And if she does mind, than I will gladly do whatever is necessary to make her happy.
I know I’ve sent a few emails to your before, thanking you for how one of your blog posts had helped me, giving my feedback on one of your blog posts, or talking to you about breaking out of the rut that I felt I had become stuck in.
The reason for this email is:
Recently I got a job, and spent some time naked outside which helped me in ways that I didn’t expect it to (I wrote about my experience outside here: https://timothyach.wordpress.com/2017/02/22/taking-off-negativity/).
There are still things I struggle with — for example: I’m currently choosing which college classes to take — but I’m in a better place now than I have been in years, and one of the reasons why is you.
One of the reasons I was able to get a job is because you helped me to break out of the rut I was in and, thus, be open to new experiences.
And you are one of the reasons why I discovered the benefits of taking time to be naked.
I hope you are doing well.
I pray for you.
Thank you for all you have done for me.
And I hope and pray that you are able to help many more people too.
Have a good day.
Wow! I am so so happy for you 🙂 this makes me so happy to hear, I’m glad I’ve been able to help in a small way! But truly you are the one who has taken that bit leap out into the world and decided what you wanted to do!
I’m so proud of you! Live isn’t always easy and sometimes as we need is a little guidance down our path.
Please feel free to email me about anything! I am always here 🙂
I hope you’re having a lovely day right now,
Love always, Lou.
Thank you for always being willing to help.
It means a lot to me to know that there is someone I can turn to.
I just hope that, in my emails to you (or my comments on your blog), I don’t come across as annoying or weird. That is a fear that I have: The fear that you will think I’m the opposite of what I’m trying to be.
In your reply to my email, you said “I’m so proud of you!” and I hope that, in my own unique way, I can always be someone you can be proud of.
That’s what I hope for in all the interactions I have with people. I’m always trying to be a light in the dark places of peoples’ lives, or help peoples’ light to shine even brighter.
You’re right: Because life isn’t always easy, we all need a little guidance down our path. And, ultimately, each person is responsible for their own life — each person either takes a leap, or doesn’t take a leap, and decides what they want to do: Nobody can take a leap for them, or force them to take a leap.
Thank you for wishing me a lovely day yesterday. It was lovely, and your words to me were one of the reasons why.
As a result of yesterday, I feel more confident and in control of my life: I feel like I am more aware of what I want out of my life, and what it will take to get it.
Thank you for all that you are doing for the sake of others. It’s rare, inspiring, and beautiful to see.
I hope that you have a lovely day.
I realize I made a mistake in my reply to you.
In my reply, I said:
“Thank you for all that you are doing for the sake of others. It’s rare, inspiring, and beautiful to see.”
I apologize if, because of the way those two sentences are worded, you thought that I was saying that it is rare to see you doing things for the sake of others.
Because, what I was trying to say with those two sentences is: It’s rare to see someone like you — it’s rare to see someone so dedicated to doing what they can for others.
The reason I said that is because, in my experience, there have not been many people who helped others purely for the sake of helping others, like you are doing. And I wanted you to know how that has positively effected me.
You are so welcome, I totally don’t think that about your comments at all, I understand that we see the world in different eyes and interpret and say things all differently 🙂
Thank you for your nice email back I’m glad I’ve been able to help.
Well I’m thinking of you and sending my love! Go out there and enjoy the sunshine and smile 🙂
I’m posting this conversation to illustrate the power and necessity of communication.
I was afraid that my emails to Lou, or my comments on her blog, would make me, in her eyes, look like an annoying pest or weirdo.
And I would have gone on being afraid if I hadn’t just said to her “I hope I’m not being annoying or weird.”
Because I made my thoughts and feelings clear, I achieved a peace that I wouldn’t have otherwise: By opening up to Lou, Lou opened up to me by telling me that there was no reason for me to be afraid.
On a related note:
One reason why getting naked appeals to me is because it is a phyiscal manifestation of the “mental nudity” that I hope to have when interacting with others — the hope I have that, when interacting with others, I’ll lay my thoughts and feelings bare in a respectful, kind manner.
Now, if you’ll excuse me:
I’m going to follow Lou’s advice and go outside.