We All Desire Love
I’m a Catholic.
As a result, I do my best to follow the teachings of the Catholic Church.
I don’t support same-sex marriage. (CCC, Section 2357) But that doesn’t mean that I believe same-sex relationships have no value.
We all desire to love and to be loved. That’s how God made us. And just because two people are of the same sex does not make that desire any less real.
God Sees You And Loves You
Gay people, like all people, are made in God’s image and likeness. (Genesis 1:27)
If you are gay, don’t ever let anyone tell you that you are going to Hell.
Because it’s not your sexual preference that makes you who you are — it’s your choices.
God does not send people to Hell.
People choose Hell.
By choosing to live contrary to how God wants them to live.
When you stand in front of the pearly gates, God isn’t going to go:
“You saved that bus full of kittens. But I did give you the desire for people of the same sex, so you have no place here.”
Purity of Intent
Purity of Intent: The perfection of one’s motive inspiring human action. An act is more or less pure depending on the degree of selfless love of God with which it is performed.
What that means is:
When determining if an action is a sin, one thing you should ask yourself is “Why am I doing this?” If your motive is good, that lessens the possibility of the act being a sin.
If your intent for kissing a person of the same sex is “I want to see if they turn me on,” than it’s a sin. Specifically: It’s a sin of lust. Why? Because you are kissing a person to gain pleasure from them: The person you are kissing is a means to an end — the “end” being pleasure — not a human being who deserves to be treated better than that.
On the other hand:
If you are kissing a person of the same sex because you’re thinking For the longest time, I’ve had a desire for people of the same sex. I don’t know what to make of this, and I want to see how deep this desire goes. I want to see what it is that I really want from people of the same sex, and you say to a person of the same sex “Can I kiss you? I want to see if I feel anything. If you don’t want to do it, that’s fine. If I do feel anything, I’m not going to say ‘Let’s be together,’ and if I don’t feel anything it’s not like I’ll never want anything to do with you again. I still want to be your friend. It’s just… I want to know more about what I’m feeling, and I think the best way to do that is to do what my feelings are telling me to do and kiss you.”
In that case:
I would say a sin wasn’t committed. Why? Because even though I believe that God frowns on same-sex intimacy, your intent is good: You’re not kissing a person in order to turn yourself on, you’re kissing a person in order to better understand yourself.
The Beauty Of Same-Sex Relationships
I believe that evil is not on par with good. I believe that evil is just a twisting of good:
God saw all he had made, and it was very good.
~ Genesis 1:31
The Shadow…can only mock, it cannot make: not real new things of its own.
~ J.R.R. Tolkien, The Lord of the Rings: The Return of the King
The reason I say this is:
I believe that gay marriage is a twisting of marriage.
The reason I believe this is:
God meant for men and women to get married, have sex, have babies, and spread across the Earth:
A man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.
~ Genesis 2:24
“Be fruitful and increase in number; fill the earth and subdue it. Rule over the fish in the sea and the birds in the sky and over every living creature that moves on the ground.”
~ Genesis 1:28
So the Devil, being the twister that he is, says:
“Why can’t it be two men or two women?”
One reason being that:
Two men and two women can’t naturally be fruitful and multiply.
To reiterate what I said above:
Just because same-sex relationships are contrary to God’s desire for humanity doesn’t mean that there isn’t beauty — there isn’t truth and goodness — in them.
What is that “truth” and “goodness”?
People, regardless of their sexual preference, are made in the image and likeness of God, the source of love, and desire to love and be loved in return. The desire to be married to a person of the same sex is a desire to live out that calling of loving and being loved.
And how is that “truthful” and “good”?
Everything comes from the Lord. All things were made because of him and will return to him.
~ Romans 11:36
When I see an image like this one:
My reaction isn’t:
My reaction is this:
To quote Iluvatar’s (God’s) words to the Ainur (angels) after Melkor’s (the Devil’s) failed rebellion in J.R.R. Tolkien’s The Silmarillion:
…no theme may be played that hath not its uttermost source in me, nor can any alter the music in my despite. For he that attempteth this shall prove but mine instrument in the devising of things more wonderful, which he himself hath not imagined.