This post was inspired by barefootwithbraids.
Lately I’ve been hearing about the notion of “Experimenting”:
Trying new, sometimes taboo, things, in order to better understand oneself and one’s desires.
Everyone has their own limits.
What makes one person go:
Is what makes another person go:
Nothing exists without God allowing it to exist.
Everything comes from the Lord. All things were made because of him and will return to him.
~ Romans 11:36
God is allowing the person experimenting to have the desires they do, and allowing the person to fulfill those desires in whatever manner they choose: He’s not striking a person dead for, for example, kissing a person of the same sex in order to know what it’s like.*
It seems that the desire to experiment often begins in college.
In college, a person is away from the environment they’ve known their whole life.
In college, a person is more or less free to, like clay, mold themselves however they want.
The questions to ask yourself are:
What do I want? And will getting what I want, and being who I want, really make me happy?
Only you, the person experimenting, can answer that.
The desire to experience the pleasure that can come with getting spanked.
The desire to experience kissing a person of the same sex.
The desire to be naked where, and when, you want.
God is allowing you to have those desires for a reason.
The thing to remember about God is:
He wants the same things you do.
You want to be free?
You want to do more, and be more, than you ever thought possible?
God wants that too:
I came that they may have life and have it abundantly.
~ John 10:10
It’s just that the way He wants it can leave you doing this:
God wants you to experiment.
He wants you to understand yourself and your desires.
Test everything. Hold fast to what is good.
~ 1 Thessalonians 5:21
Be as shrewd as serpents and as innocent as doves.
~ Matthew 10:16
Whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable — if anything is excellent or praiseworthy — think about such things.
~ Philippians 4:8
Pray, trusting that whatever God reveals to you about what you want to do, why you want to do it, how you want to do it, when you want to do it, where you want to do it, and/or with whom you want to do it, is what will ultimately be best for you.
If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask God, who gives generously to all without reproach, and it will be given him.
~ 2 Timothy 1:5 — 7
*Purity of Intent: “The perfection of one’s motive inspiring human action. An act is more or less pure depending on the degree of selfless love of God with which it is performed.”
What that means is:
When determining if an action is a sin, one thing you should ask yourself is “Why am I doing this?” If your motive is good, that lessens the possibility of the act being a sin.
If your intent for kissing a person of the same sex is “I want to see if they turn me on,” than it’s a sin. Specifically: It’s a sin of lust. Why? Because you are kissing a person to gain pleasure from them: The person you are kissing is a means to an end — the “end” being pleasure — not a human being who deserves to be treated better than that.
On the other hand:
If you are kissing a person of the same sex because you’re thinking For the longest time, I’ve had a desire for people of the same sex. I don’t know what to make of this, and I want to see how deep this desire goes. I want to see what it is that I really want from people of the same sex, and you say to a person of the same sex “Can I kiss you? I want to see if I feel anything. If you don’t want to do it, that’s fine. If I do feel anything, I’m not going to say ‘Let’s be together,’ and if I don’t feel anything it’s not like I’ll never want anything to do with you again. I still want to be your friend. It’s just… I want to know more about what I’m feeling, and I think the best way to do that is to do what my feelings are telling me to do and kiss you.”
In that case:
I would say a sin wasn’t committed. Why? Because even though I believe that God frowns on same-sex intimacy (CCC 2357 — 2359) your intent is good: You’re not kissing a person in order to turn yourself on, you’re kissing a person in order to better understand yourself.