Reaching out to nudists: Part 2

Note: If you are angered or offended by anything I say in this post, let me know by commenting on it and we can talk about it. The reason I say this is that I can’t read others’ minds — I don’t know how a person will react to what I write, no matter how pure my intent is. So I just want anyone reading this to know: It’s not my intent to offend or anger you.

Since the reaction that my first “Reaching out to nudists” post got, I thought I’d do a Part 2 and ask more questions to nudists so that I, and any who come across these series of posts, may learn more about the nudist lifestyle and, thus, be better able to empathize with those who live it.

If you choose to answer any of these questions, please leave your answers in the comment section of this post. Thank you. And even if you don’t answer any of these questions, I hope they made you think.

Questions for nudists:

  1. There is a belief that if people go around naked, then sex will lose its intimacy since the body is exposed for all — not just for your spouse/significant other — to see. Has being a nudist effected how you view sex? If so, how?
  2. To those who live in nudist families — family members are nudists, too — has nudism effected how you live your day-to-day lives and the relationship you have with family members? If so, how?
  3. To those who live in non-nudist families — families who are not accepting of your lifestyle — has the fact that you are a nudist caused conflict? If so, what steps have you and/or your family taken to end the conflict?
  4. How has being a nudist effected your relationship with your nudist and non-nudist friends?
  5. To a person who says “Nudism is wrong,” what would you say to convince them otherwise?

Like I said above, the intent of these questions is to learn more about the nudist lifestyle in order to better understand those who live it. The reason I ask these questions is because I think that empathy is the key to a more stable peace between people.

There will never be peace on Earth — we’re too imperfect for everyone to get along at all times — but that doesn’t mean that we can’t work towards better treatment for all, no matter who we are or where we come from.

Thank you for reading this post.

For further reading:

Where No One Goes: Reaching Out to Those Who Think Differently

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30 thoughts on “Reaching out to nudists: Part 2

  1. Has being a nudist effected how you view sex? If so, how?
    Because nudity or clothes free life is non sexual it has affected my view of sex as much as my view of my clothes free body as not being just for sex. Most people may only remove clothing for sex or a shower making the association of clothes free body = sex or dirty. Normalizing non sexual nudity has eliminated that association. Skimpy clothing seems more sexually tittilating than the clothes free body.

  2. 1. Nudity is nudity; sex is sex. We do not lose interest in sex because we become accustomed to nudity; far from it! But the stimuli that arouse us are different: voice, touch, words of love, emotional and spiritual connection… And that is as it should be.
    2. I have no immediate family living with me.
    3. My extended family simply doesn’t want to talk about it. I’ve hinted, and made no secret of it in my social media activities, but the very few responses I’ve gotten have been “We don’t want to see this, we don’t want to talk about it!”
    4. My nudist friends are wonderful! My non-nudist friends mostly know, and accept this as part of me, with varying comfort levels.
    5. Nudism is pure! That’s what people don’t get. It’s not swinging or masturbation or sex play (although nudists are also sexual beings). And far from evoking shame, it evokes self-assurance and removes barriers to love.

    1. Thank you for answering my questions.

      As a non-nudist, for the longest time the nudist lifestyle came across as strange to me. It is because of feedback like yours that I now have more of an understanding of the nudist lifestyle.

      1. I think what scares people about nudism is the chance that learning about it may change their lives from the root. With some things, you can say truly, “That’s fine for you, but it’s not my thing.” You can’t do that with nudity. It’s either good for all, or not good. It challenges us to look again at everything we’ve had beat into our heads about ourselves and our bodies and customs…

      2. That’s a good point.

        Nudity is natural.

        I think where the fear of nudity comes from is lust. The fear that a person who is naked will be looked at not as a human being, but as an object for enjoyment — as something to masturbate to or fantasize over.

        Many people who are against nudism, it seems, were taught the story of Adam and Eve in the Garden of Eden, and how they hid their nakedness after they’d eaten the fruit. Thus, nudity is equated with shame, lust, and sin.

      3. That was one of my fears before I embraced nudism. But the truth is exactly the opposite! Once we accustom ourselves to seeing other humans without coverings, we see them as brothers and sisters. We accept them, not as objects for our use, but as much full individuals as ourselves. Some of us really think that going mutually naked may bring world peace if all the world did it. 🙂

      4. Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this.

        I like hearing other peoples’ point of view on subjects.

        I myself am not a nudist. But I’ve learned more about the nudist lifestyle lately and feel I am better able to empathize with those who live it.

        I’ve learned that nudists are people just like everyone else, that people are more than their bodies, and that the body is something to be understood and respected, not feared or treated as if it’s dirty/shameful.

        As a Catholic, I believe that God created everything. And that when God created everything (including the human body) God saw that it was “very good.” (Genesis 1:31)

      5. It’s because of the fear people have of either being looked as an object for enjoyment because they’re naked, or looking at people who are naked as an object for enjoyment (lusting): There is the fear that a person who is naked will be dehumanized.

        The reason for this fear, I think, is because of the story of Adam and Eve. After they eat the fruit, Adam thinks “Eve might try and use me.” And Eve thinks “Adam might try and use me.” So Adam and Eve covered themselves.

      1. Thanks for your continued respect, and for sharing my comments. I hope they stimulate a holy curiosity about what God really thinks of the bodies S/He shaped with His/Her hands.

      2. You’re welcome.

        Thank you for supporting my blog by reading and commenting on it. I always enjoy reading what others have to say about what I’ve written.

        I believe that God can use anything for good. I believe that God is using nudism to teach people to love and respect their bodies, and to love and respect themselves and others, too.

        Lately I’ve been having trouble accepting my body, and nudism — specifically, reading comments on my posts about nudism about how going naked positively effected people’s lives — helped me to see the God-given beauty of my body.

        Going naked isn’t for me, but I pray that, for people who are nudists, it is an experience that they look back on without shame: That a person, on their deathbed, can be proud that they were a nudist.

        Keep loving and respecting your body, and loving and respecting yourself and other people, too, and I don’t doubt that God will be with you, showing you His/Her will.

      3. From the first moment I took off my chains, uh, clothes 🙂 in company with other bare humans, I have been proud to be a nudist.

        You say that nudity is not for you. I cannot think like that. When I first started studying nudism, I realized right away that it was not a matter of mere curiosity, but a study that could change my life. After continued study, I saw that I could not hope to understand it until I tried it. I could not say it was okay for others but not for me. The great moral questions, such as the Ten Commandments, don’t leave us that option. Either it is right and good, or it isn’t.

      4. “The great moral questions, such as the Ten Commandments, don’t leave us that option. Either it is right and good, or it isn’t.”

        That’s a good point.

        Here is what my experience has been so far:

        When I undress in order to shower, and feel the freedom of not wearing clothes — for example: feel the air on my skin — I can understand why a person would choose to go naked.

        However for me, for now, to go naked is something that I can’t bring myself to do. It’s not that I think nudity is bad: I believe my body is inherently good. Going naked just isn’t something that appeals to me at this moment in time.

      5. Well, it may be a little chilly for nudity right now. 🙂 But I extend an open invitation to you to join us at any time. You will be welcomed. We’re good at that.

      6. Thank you.

        One of the reasons I admire nudists is because of their openness: Their acceptance of others.

        I feel like there are so many walls between people nowadays. I admire that nudists are willing to break down those walls — are willing to say “No matter who we are or where we come from, we are all human beings deserving of respect and love.”

      7. Looking back over our conversation from earlier today, there’s something I forgot to say:

        I too hope that your comments and my posts stimulate a holy curiosity about the bodies God gave us.

        That curiosity will lead to conversations among people, which will hopefully lead to a new understanding of the human body. What that “new understanding” will be I don’t know for sure, but I am confident that if a person’s curiosity about their body is holy, than God will direct that curiosity to wherever He/She wants it to go.

        Thank you for this conversation earlier today. It’s fun, and makes me think, talking to people about why they live their lives the way they do.

  3. Not married, yet, (now my future wife will have to be nudist oriented, only God could make the right connection there) No conflicts so far, even though I’m the only one in my family or neighbors that prefer clothes free living and work. Probably because I don’t do it openly. Just when I’m working alone in isolated places, back in the woods, in isolated fields. However if or when challenge comes I’m ready. It starts with Adam and Eve. Were they lewd when they were nude in the garden? God’s perfect plan had them working a garden naked, and would have continued with all their children forever if sin hadn’t entered. How about Isaiah, was he being inappropriately attired as he obeyed the command of God to walk the streets nude for 3 years? Then there was Peter working in the fishing boat naked. And then Jesus mentioning clothes free agriculture work as if it were normal everyday life. Matt 24:18 And what he says makes it obvious he expected the field worker to run the other way leaving his clothes behind. Which meant running naked cross country to who knows where I suppose. The opposition may come up with Noah and his drunk naked experience. The Bible obviously leaves out some important details in that story. Since for a man to see another man naked is and has been irrelevant for all of history, it’s never been a problem. There was something that happened there that warranted a severe curse on Ham and his son. I rather suspect a homosexual act. No proof of it, but the evidence would suggest it pretty strongly. Noah is not condemned for getting drunk. I suspect alcohol was a pretty new thing at that time, since there is evidence that atmospheric conditions before the flood were different, higher air pressure and higher oxygen percentage. It may have prevented alcohol from forming. So they were just discovering what aged grape juice would do.

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