I hear it all over the place, it seems: “She was asking for it.”
What I mean is: Men blaming their actions on women. On the way a woman walked, talked, looked, etc.
As a man, I’m sick of this excuse.
The reason why I’m sick of it is because I have free will. Ultimately, I have no one to blame for my thoughts or actions except myself.
This excuse isn’t anything new. You find it at the beginning of the Bible: “The man said, ‘The woman you put here with me–she gave me some fruit from the tree, and I ate it.'” (Genesis 3:12)
Eve doesn’t take responsibility for her actions, either: “Then the LORD God said to the woman, ‘What is this you have done?’ The woman said, ‘The serpent deceived me, and I ate.'” (Genesis 3:13)
Neither Adam nor Eve just says to God “OK! You got me! I messed up.” Both point fingers and say “They made me do it!” Neither takes responsibility for their actions.
But the point I’m trying to make is this: Men blaming women for their actions is nothing new.
For a recent example: Whenever I hear discussions about whether or not a woman should wear a bikini, more often than not I eventually hear something like this: “Women should wear a one-piece instead because that way men won’t be tempted.”
I don’t like talk like this.
The reason I don’t like it is because it’s time that men stopped being seen as animals that just can’t control themselves. It’s time that men started taking responsibility for their thoughts and actions.
I, and I alone, am ultimately responsible for my thoughts and my actions.
Pinning the blame on a woman for what I think about or do is me doing what Adam did to Eve in the Garden of Eden: Blaming her for my sin.